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Roheema salaudeen's avatar

I experienced this last year and what I did was take a break from the things that were stressing my mental health (including people) and build my relationship with God. Tahajjud, praying on time, reciting the Quran, etc.

May Allah grant you ease and guide you, Hauwa💜

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Hauwa's avatar

Ameen. Thank you

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Promise Chukwuma's avatar

This right here meets me with my book opened wide and pen in between my lips, lost in thoughts as I don't even know where to begin with my goals.

Lol! I thought I was the only abnormal person 🙂. Clarity we ask oh Jesus!

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Peter Benson's avatar

These things happen oo

Many times, the best way to solve this quadratic equation is to just start with one of the many thoughts in you your head and clarity will come in the process

One thing I have observed through the years is that confusion will keep hovering if the boldness to take the first step is not matched with your desires

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Kimella Umeh's avatar

Happy new year, Hauwa.

It's okay, you're not seeking attention.

It's not everyone's new year that typically starts on Jan 1st.

Take your time to pray for clarity. You may not necessarily have all the answers you seek at once, and that's okay too.

Just work with the ones that come to you. Break them down into Q1, Q2, Q3 and Q4 and tackle them month by month, week by week, day by day till the end of each quarter. Use notion boards maybe.

And if you're only clear on what to do in January alone, then even that is a win. The remaining story will unfold itself. ❤️

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Hauwa's avatar

God bless you. Thank you.

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Haliyah💕's avatar

Honestly, it’s not a form of attention seeking. The pressure that comes with a new year is usually a lot, I hope you get the clarity that you need. You’re not alone🫂

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Hauwa's avatar

Thank you so much

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Elizabeth Agbajor's avatar

Hugs🤗

I am also confused at the moment. I have been job hunting for a while with no results. I was volunteering before now, but I can't continue as there is pressure, especially from my mom, to find something worth doing that would generate income. My online class is ending this week and I don't even know where to start in my search as I am transitioning to a new role without any experience

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Hauwa's avatar

Gosh this seems like a lot. I am so sorry about what you're going through

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Wamide A's avatar

So so sorry

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Daniella Olamiposi Dave's avatar

i love you too hauwa ❤️

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Irene's avatar

Happy New Year Hauwa ! I understand the feelings you’re experiencing because I’m experiencing the exact same thing too and it’s overwhelming. I really do pray for clarity, and I pray the year will be awesome for us all.

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Hauwa's avatar

Amen o, Irene. Amen

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Ifective💀's avatar

hauwa❤️

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Hauwa's avatar

❤️

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Wuraola. Khayra. Akinkunmi's avatar

There is not one lie in everything you wrote. Here I am filled with the thoughts of going back to writing and picking up my old productive habits because I've gotten so carried away with making money even when it still doesn't bring me the fulfillment I wish for. Anyway, l have decided to just breathe and take things slow. Feelings are normal, and emotions are great as they always remind us how far we have come from where we used to be. So yeah I guess we are in this together.💪

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Hauwa's avatar

We areeee

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Abiodun Adeniyi's avatar

I thought I was the only one being confused and sad… and the thing is, we’d still be winging it

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Hauwa's avatar

I'm winging it too oh 😂

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Abbie's avatar

So it isn’t just me 😭😭😭 at the beginning of my December 2024 it was like “we are about stepping into 2025 “ I had this adrenaline rush, my dopamine were pumping and boom got to Christmas and I became a sad baby with so much rage. I guess it was as a result of many unsaid words, 1st of January and I was just there lying on my bed wondering what’s next, confused, sad, sacred and a cold feet 😭 I am still trying to find myself. I lost interest in everything, eating disorder got worse and I am helpless 😭

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Hauwa's avatar

😭 Have you considered talking to someone. This sounds really serious

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Abbie's avatar

No I haven’t

But the funny thing is I do not even know what exactly is wrong

I think it is a compilation of many things so I can’t pick a particular one

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Shittu Isaac's avatar

Real,

you won't even realise that people love you so much and are looking forward to hearing from you.

And in split seconds one can go from being getting attention to needing attention.

This is when you find solace in past glory and goodness.

Jesus loves you🎈

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Hauwa's avatar

Thank youuu

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Ebunilo Chizoba Catherine's avatar

I’m starting off the year listening to messages, praying and seeking clarity. I’m not in a hurry to tick off goals. I’m choosing stillness. It doesn’t look like anything it’s happening but I know something is

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Hauwa's avatar

I love that you're choosing stillness.

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ZigZag Zee's avatar

Thissss. My whole January is for stillness or as I call it, being in a limbo. I hope it clears with time

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Ebunilo Chizoba Catherine's avatar

It’s okay to take that time. That’s my personal opinion though

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Oòni of Antartica's avatar

Thank you for sharing this Hauwa, you're not alone and it's natural to feel some sort of way till there's balance. Nonetheless, I have something for you and everyone who feels that way, I just picked up my stylus and started writing it just before the new year. I really hope this helps someone.

Happy New Year!

As we begin a new year, it's natural to feel a mix of emotions - excitement for the opportunities and possibilities that lie ahead, and perhaps a bit of nervousness about the unknown. No matter what you're feeling, know that you're not alone, and that you're capable of facing and handling whatever challenges come your way.

This year, take a moment to reflect on the progress you've made and lessons you've learned. Remember to be kind to yourself and others, and to approach each day with an open mind and a positive attitude. Break free of the world's idea of happiness which most times is tied to favourable circumstances. Circumstances change all the time, but don't allow that to dictate your happiness. God desires that we experience JOY, a settled state of contentment, confidence and hope that comes only from trusting him.

So if you're reading this right now, I love you. I may not know you but I love you. I'm happy that you're here, still alive and trust me, you are loved and seen. The best days of your life are still ahead of you, never give up on yourself, never stop choosing yourself. Don't forget that thoughts, feelings, people....... they all come and go, but your worth will never decrease. You will forget be worthy of love and a happy life. You are enough. God has deposited more than enough greatness inside of you, so I'm urging you to live and experience life, don't just exist. One thing to always keep in mind is that your own presence is enough, your company is enough, ignore the outside noise and focus on self development and personal growth. Peace comes from within, so don't waste a lifetime searching for something right inside of you.

To the people who grew up in chaos, peace is easily mistaken for boredom.

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Hauwa's avatar

Thank you so so much.

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NWANDO's avatar

It takes a very present and observant person to feel the things you are feeling. You are definitely not alone ride on and the almighty will see you through ❤❤❤

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Hauwa's avatar

Ameeennn

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iamjustagirl's avatar

Thanks for being with me. I feel so sad because school is about to resume my results are not so great and I don't even know where to start from because I am becoming overwhelmed.

It looks like when I try to move one step at the time I end up falling on my face.

My dreams are just as sad as my reality.

Anyways Thanks for the letter Hauwa.

Happy new year.

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Hauwa's avatar

I'm so sorry. God should please help us.

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