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that_june_gurl's avatar

I dig every part of this letter. Because this was me...

My body developed slooooowwwwllllyyy. Painfully slow. And God that want to catch me, I had and still have miniature breasts..

Lord knows I struggled with this. Always noticing the 'ugly' things about myself.

How I was so tiny and everyone my age was in full bloom.

Mtchew! I just tortured myself in vain. Now in my mid twenties and nothing has changed body wise.

But I have received sense sha. Even though I still have days I feel 'ugly', my beautiful days tip the scale widely.

Thank you for this piece Hauwa.

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Hauwa's avatar

From what you described, I think you’re so beautiful. You ‘developed’ at the right pace. Your pace.

And yes, there are days where you would struggle but catch yourself and give yourself all the love you can. You deserve it.

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Racheal Ilori's avatar

Story of my life.

Worst I hated my dark skin then but now haters Gon hate , even potatoes can pirate.

I'm one of God's finest piece of work.

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Aishatoo's avatar

I am your opposite . I grew so rapidly that I could be mistaken for an 18year old when I was just thirteen ... I was a center of attraction at a very young age and grew too big when the time was just right . I learned to love myself with all that though

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TomiSmallie's avatar

Thank you so much for this😩❤️

I love you

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Hauwa's avatar

Love you too. ❤️❤️

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Olakunle's avatar

Thanks for this newsletter hauwa. 🥂❤️

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Hauwa's avatar

Thank you for reading. ❤️

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Shade's avatar

I love this letter. Because I lived this.. throughout my secondary school days…. To make matters worse then… I woke up one morning and I was almost 6ft tall….. God…. The horror…. I was tall , skinny flat chested and no asset at all.. I woke up one morning after uni days and had to tell myself. You have to love yourself… no one would if you don’t. That was the beginning of my life as a young girl. Now I love every aspect of my body. I may not be perfect but I appreciate what God has given to me. And I work with it. Thank you so much for Your letters. Keep up the good work..

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Hauwa's avatar

God!!! Do you know what some of us will do for a body like that?!

If only you knew how beautiful you were. I think a lot of us struggled in secondary school because we were told that beauty only comes in one form.

I hope that you can look into the mirror and see your gorgeousness.

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Shonibare Ajoke's avatar

The fact that the message was passed after genuinely laffing is the big deal. Hauwa thank you as always. I love you big time💞and trust m this is right for me directly for me o

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Hauwa's avatar

I love you too! ❤️❤️

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Random Musings Of An Immortal's avatar

This hit so close to home, I wish more young girls would see this and learn to see their true beauty. Be happy in their skin and proudly live their best lives. Thank you Hauwa.

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Dherby's avatar

Love , love this . Learning yourself to be honest is the best thing ever. Learning to !!not waiting for others to validate you. I often waive compliments , honestly because I don't actually believe them. And form I don't care ☺️

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Nifemi's avatar

Omooo, mine was my height 😩... I was taller than almost all my classmates(boys inclusive) back then and it was embaaaarraasing! I literally used to pray to God to remove even if it is like 4 inches, (I used to minus the length of heels in my head because I like “high shoes”... 🤣🤲🏽) Wo, long story short, that height (now 6”) and tiny body (I now have small nyansh and size 38 bra size 😂) is an asset today, don’t even get me started. I still have my days of “this or that could be better” but guuyyy, if I am not what I look like today, I have learnt overtime that I am perfect however and the love I shower on myself is most important. Every other one would come as a plus.

Thank you for always Huawa. 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

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Hauwa's avatar

You just described a perfect body!

The struggle we all had to live with in secondary school was wild.

I hope that you continue to build on your confidence because if I had your height, nobody will be able to tell me NOTHING. Because I’ll knock them.

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Ibilola Owolabi's avatar

Thank you for this beautiful and amazing story. I sincerely hope that young ladies and women in general will begin to accept themselves for who they are.

Thank you Hauwa❤️

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Hauwa's avatar

I hope so too! Thank you!

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sieve as a soul's avatar

💛 thank you so much for this

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Boluwatiwi's avatar

This is beautiful. Really really

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Weirdo's avatar

I wish I knew all this as a teenager 😔 but glory to God my head don correct now 🤲🏽

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Ddoggy's avatar

The way I just had flashback and I really really wanted to hold my old self and tell to stop crying in the toilet 😭😭

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Tosin Olawale's avatar

This letter should be read by every teenage girl. Most of us have gone through phases of feelings of ugliness, seeking validation and lacking the attention we needed. My teenage years were "hmmm" so this story resonated fully with me. I'm quite sure it resonates with others too.

Thank you Hauwa

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Dirichi Mathias's avatar

Thank you so much Hauwa. I've suffered with body dysmorphia for a while ago because of my weight and I've just started to learn how to love myself. So thank you very much

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Somii's avatar

I can relate to this so bad.

Back in my secondary school days i was so skinny and i got called all types of names. It hurt so bad i made my parents take me to a dietitian to make sure i gained weight before i resumed.

I eventually added in all the right places but the fear of being called skinny remained with me

It took a long time for me to get over myself and love my body because even when people told me the liked my body i thought they were mocking me and sometimes my heart still skips a beat if i feel i lost a bit of weight 😅

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