Meanwhile, I’m seeing this at a time when I’m genuinely sick and tired of being lonely. It’s been almost three years and I don’t know if I can take it anymore.
Anyway, I think I’ll just make peace with it and patiently wait for the right man, instead of rushing into anything and regretting later on.
Yes please, we're better off waiting for the best person out there. It's no competition but I've been single almost all my life, no relationship past 3 months & sometimes I wonder if I'll ever find my person. The thought that I might not scares me tbh
But regardless, I know I prefer to be single & happy than being in a relationship I won't enjoy myself or have my peace.
I pray the right person comes for us soon & we're happy single or partnered up!
There's something about the way you write that feels like a novel I would never put down. It's beautiful. It's funny. It's real. It's relatable. I hope you know, Hauwa. That you've got gold.
Your writing feels like the perfect accompaniment to a cold day, a hot cup of tea, and of course, a beautifully empty room with no one but me, and my moody cat.
And about Biodun, it is well. Getting a child does complicate things. Couple's therapy might be a good start tbh. They both need to know if there's anything about their union worth salvaging. But one thing we as a race have mastered is the art of denial. They'll be fine.
Plix if you find out the name of the unbranded brand with the perfect shrimp rice, please let us know. We can always order it without the chicken!
Hey b💜, thank you for this. It's being tough being a single woman in your 30s fr especially in this Lagos. The rate at which you get invitations to sexual favours both from married men, relationship men, situationship men cos you apparently don't have "someone" you can cheat on is alarming. Thankfully I always have my sanity anchored in my values and standards and I am willing to wait for my own person.
Sorry Biodun! And sorry to your wife too….but it may seem as though you both aren’t good people😭….cos why are you cheating on yourselves?? Release yourselves nau🙏🏾😩
First. Hauwa, you are smart to never consider a relationship with this man.
Second. Curious as to the spiritual side of this man and his wife. I am unfamiliar with Lagos, Nigeria. I am a Christian in the US. There are fabulous programs to get Christians back on track. No, not every marriage can be saved. But these programs will get to the very heart of the problem. If you have comments about what is offered in your community, we would love to hear.
Lmfaoooooo!!! Hot tears inna me eyes!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣!! How did this newsletter get to me? The universe must be working overtime to knock my head because I currently live with a Biodun 🤣🤣😭😭😂😂😂
I took a break in the middle to let the reality of our lives as humans capable of love, of giving and receiving love, seep in. May we all find true love and I pray when we do, we don’t miss it. Until then, let’s be single in peace
Biodun reminds me of a friend that was only complaining to me just to get pity sex. Tell him clearly that you'll never sleep with him and suddenly him and his wife are good. The last part of your story is where I am right now, Single, sometimes seriously lonely, but peace of mind no dey ever leave me 😊'. The right one will definitely come our way ❤.
Thank you so much for this reminder, Hauwa. It’s so much better to be single than stuck in a relationship that you’re not happy in. I feel for Biodun and his wife but, I feel for their child the most, the one who is at the shorter end of the rope. They most likely saw the red flags and still went for it and now they’re here.
Can I just say that I love the way you write Hauwa??? So beautiful and humorous. Now, as a married woman who has been married for almost 3years,here’s something you can tell any man in your life who is a Biodun;
1. Encourage him to go see a therapist first and then hopefully a marriage therapist if his wife is willing to work it out.
2. Refer to number 1.
Because for the life of me,I cannot imagine how betrayed I’ll feel if my husband goes out of the house to discuss our marriage with his single female friend,not because I’m jealous of the friendship they share but because I’d prefer if he comes home to me,to tell me all these concerns. (keep in mind that I don’t know the full picture,I’m just offering my opinion)
At least Biodun brings food with him, what an intentional complainer😂😂
With that food I will forever be his listening ear
Fr😂
I’d low key be anticipating the complaints, cause I know free food will follow 😂
Rule number one: Never miss Hauwa’s post.
Meanwhile, I’m seeing this at a time when I’m genuinely sick and tired of being lonely. It’s been almost three years and I don’t know if I can take it anymore.
Anyway, I think I’ll just make peace with it and patiently wait for the right man, instead of rushing into anything and regretting later on.
Thank you for sharing this, Hauwa❤️
Yes please, we're better off waiting for the best person out there. It's no competition but I've been single almost all my life, no relationship past 3 months & sometimes I wonder if I'll ever find my person. The thought that I might not scares me tbh
But regardless, I know I prefer to be single & happy than being in a relationship I won't enjoy myself or have my peace.
I pray the right person comes for us soon & we're happy single or partnered up!
Amen!
There's something about the way you write that feels like a novel I would never put down. It's beautiful. It's funny. It's real. It's relatable. I hope you know, Hauwa. That you've got gold.
Your writing feels like the perfect accompaniment to a cold day, a hot cup of tea, and of course, a beautifully empty room with no one but me, and my moody cat.
And about Biodun, it is well. Getting a child does complicate things. Couple's therapy might be a good start tbh. They both need to know if there's anything about their union worth salvaging. But one thing we as a race have mastered is the art of denial. They'll be fine.
Plix if you find out the name of the unbranded brand with the perfect shrimp rice, please let us know. We can always order it without the chicken!
Thank you Hauwa, yes you will laugh but you’ll definitely learn something from Hauwa’s newsletter
Hey b💜, thank you for this. It's being tough being a single woman in your 30s fr especially in this Lagos. The rate at which you get invitations to sexual favours both from married men, relationship men, situationship men cos you apparently don't have "someone" you can cheat on is alarming. Thankfully I always have my sanity anchored in my values and standards and I am willing to wait for my own person.
You are loved and appreciated💥
Hauwa hope you remembered to ask him where he got the rice from. So you can buy it next time, chicken can be from somewhere else 😄
Sorry Biodun! And sorry to your wife too….but it may seem as though you both aren’t good people😭….cos why are you cheating on yourselves?? Release yourselves nau🙏🏾😩
First. Hauwa, you are smart to never consider a relationship with this man.
Second. Curious as to the spiritual side of this man and his wife. I am unfamiliar with Lagos, Nigeria. I am a Christian in the US. There are fabulous programs to get Christians back on track. No, not every marriage can be saved. But these programs will get to the very heart of the problem. If you have comments about what is offered in your community, we would love to hear.
Did you find out the name of the restaurant?!😂😂
Lmfaoooooo!!! Hot tears inna me eyes!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣!! How did this newsletter get to me? The universe must be working overtime to knock my head because I currently live with a Biodun 🤣🤣😭😭😂😂😂
This!
I took a break in the middle to let the reality of our lives as humans capable of love, of giving and receiving love, seep in. May we all find true love and I pray when we do, we don’t miss it. Until then, let’s be single in peace
Biodun reminds me of a friend that was only complaining to me just to get pity sex. Tell him clearly that you'll never sleep with him and suddenly him and his wife are good. The last part of your story is where I am right now, Single, sometimes seriously lonely, but peace of mind no dey ever leave me 😊'. The right one will definitely come our way ❤.
Thank you so much for this reminder, Hauwa. It’s so much better to be single than stuck in a relationship that you’re not happy in. I feel for Biodun and his wife but, I feel for their child the most, the one who is at the shorter end of the rope. They most likely saw the red flags and still went for it and now they’re here.
Bruhhhhhh 😂 I ran here immediately I got the notification 🤭
Clicked on it as soon as I saw the notification.
Same here
Can I just say that I love the way you write Hauwa??? So beautiful and humorous. Now, as a married woman who has been married for almost 3years,here’s something you can tell any man in your life who is a Biodun;
1. Encourage him to go see a therapist first and then hopefully a marriage therapist if his wife is willing to work it out.
2. Refer to number 1.
Because for the life of me,I cannot imagine how betrayed I’ll feel if my husband goes out of the house to discuss our marriage with his single female friend,not because I’m jealous of the friendship they share but because I’d prefer if he comes home to me,to tell me all these concerns. (keep in mind that I don’t know the full picture,I’m just offering my opinion)