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Quietwriter's avatar

Hi Hauwa! I don’t think you were stupid, you were innocent and that’s not on you but, the bastard that almost took advantage of you. I was in SSS 2 when my “CIVIC EDUCATION” teacher made sexual advances towards me. I reported him to my mum who in turn informed the school and nothing was done to punish him. It was the talk of the school, in fact till I graduated. He was not sacked until I exposed him with evidence for inviting a 14 year old girl to his house for sex on Facebook. Still, he was not arrested or reprimanded, he was only laid off. I remember female teachers standing in front of the assembly and saying that it was our fault that he made such advances towards us, because we were overly friendly with him. That event still makes me scared about having children in such a society Frfr.

Long story short, Mr. Charles (not his real name) was laid off from his previous school for the same reason but he did worse there and now he works at another school very close to my father’s bakery. Now, I see him occasionally in my street anytime I come home from school(university) and yes, every time I see him I used to shout “Ashewo!” Or “Paedophile” because that’s what he is! I am so done blaming myself for someone else’s actions and you should be too. It’s not your fault that the world is not the rainbow colors you grew up to see it as. 🫶

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Mary Orlowski McFerson's avatar

I don’t think you were stupid either. I don’t think I was stupid either, but I sure as hell have been raped, and more than once, sadly. When the adults in our life, don’t protect us we are prey to the child molesters. My best childhood friend forced me to tell my mother about my 70+ year old neighbor who sexually abused me when I was 14. Unfortunately, my mother decided she couldn’t tell my dad because he’d kill our neighbor, but then she sadly never asked me about it again. Sexual abuse escalated over the years because I wrongly thought that men could do what they wanted, and I had no power over them. It destroyed more than 50 years of my life, but I’m happy to say that I’m finally recovering what’s left.

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