Let’s Talk About Heartbreak For A Minute, Shall We?

Do you really think there is no romantic heartbreak you can’t get over?

At some point on your journey to adulthood, you must have experienced heartbreak in one form or another.

The crushing pain in your chest as a child, when the TV goes off in the middle of your favourite cartoon.

Or when you rush inside the house to drink water after playing with your friends all day but just as you’re about to run back out, your mum tells you to sit down and read your book.

Or when you pay good money for food only to find it disappointing.

It’s almost as though from a young age, you’ve been trained to fluently speak the language of heartbreak but no matter how many times you experience these fleeting heartbreaks, nothing prepares you for the one that brings you to your knees.

Romantic heartbreaks.

Every now and then, on the internet, you’ll come across a video of a person crying their eyes out in front of a camera, pleading with an ex-lover to take them back. You’ll watch with a mixture of interest and disgust. Maybe even a little bit of pity because why would anyone bring their personal issues to the world wide web?

Sometimes, these individuals do not even make the videos, a friend (I like to refer to them as enemies) records them in their time of grief, posts it online and it goes viral because people love a good laugh, especially at the expense of other people.

However, regardless of who brings it to the internet, there remains a common factor.

The crushing hurt.

Almost everyone has felt (and will feel) the pain of heartbreak. 

The only difference is how and where we handle it. 

Where? 

While some people might be able to jet out of the country and cry on a luxurious holiday, or relocate to start a new life elsewhere, others may be confined to their little corner of the world, crying into a bowl of garri. 

It’s not difficult to see why anyone would be down bad. 

Research has likened heartbreak to the withdrawal symptoms of a drug addict.

Why does love hurt when it ends?

Personally, I think it’s the hope.

You met someone, probably by accident. The person becomes your own person in the midst of 8 billion people, the one you’re able to tell about your horrid day or an annoying co-worker. The only person you want to hug after a long day of fighting the world. The one whose ideas seem like the best thing in the world even if you’ve heard the same ideas from practically everyone else. The only person that knows your body and mind. Your own home that you don’t have to pay rent for.

Of course there’s also the fantasy you’ve built in your head about the holidays you’d take together, wedding venues and maybe even the number of kids you want to have with them. 

Suddenly, something happens and everything turns to dust, slipping through your fingers.

For some reason, it has to end and one party decides to walk away, leaving the other party confused and heartbroken.

Their numbers deleted, their pictures wiped from your phone, you become strangers again. 

Only the memories remain. And those have vowed to snuff the life out of you.

Suddenly you are posting motivational whatsapp status about you being the only person you need. LMAO. Seriously, stop that nonsense. Everybody knows they don break your heart again.

Anyway, no matter how many times it has happened to you in the past, it feels like the first time.

I find heartbreaks very funny because my dad worked in a psychiatric hospital for years before he retired and on visits to his office, I’ve seen people at the brink of insanity due to heartbreak.

While it is true that some people have endured & survived multiple heartbreaks, some have had to be hospitalised for the exact same thing.

Others have even died. I have heard of couples who died within months of each other because they could not fathom the idea of going through life without the other person.

It’s terrifying but it brings me to the final question.

Do you really think there is no romantic heartbreak you can’t get over? 

Or do you think some will forever have a lasting effect on you?