I read a book recently that said “If the Prophet Muhammad were among us today, many would reject him. He would be too compassionate for the extremists, too honest for the hypocrites, too revolutionary for the status quo.”
100% agree. Religion is not black & white, this or that. The Quran preaches kindness & compassion at almost every point but loads of Muslims are blind to it today.
They’re intolerant of their neighbors & extend unkindness to the other person.
So what if she takes of her hijab, if u have a concern, there are better ways to communicate it.
Also, the obsession of controlling what women wear is not about religion or cos they care, it’s about control
Even now a days Christians barely cover their heads to church again. It doesn’t mean we are way better than them because we are wearing scarfs. If you feel like what she’s doing is wrong then talk to her politely. But we should always remember no one is perfect
Hi Zee. I saw this annd thought it’s best to say something. So it’s actually a sin not to cover your head as a woman in Islam. We have been explicitly ordered to do so, and it is a sigh of faith. However, just like everyone struggles with one aspect of the religion or another, some also struggle with the hijab. And that is fine, because Allah is merciful. What is not fine is trying to validate your decision to take it off by stating reasons that could mislead other people. You can admit you’re struggling and let’s move on from there instead of saying something like, “I feel free”, “I feel liberated”, “it is not compulsory anyway”
According to the consensus of the scholars of the four madhabs of Sunni Islam, covering the hair is a requirement for free women, as it constitutes part of their 'awrah. Failing to do so is falling short of Sacred Law.
I just feel that the world has grown too judgmental today.
It’s why you see people so blinded by a sense of self righteous superiority that they pile on any and everyone they consider to be short of their manufactured standards.
Allow God to fight his own battles! As you wrote, face ya own demons first: they’re legion enough to keep you occupied for your short and fleeting sojourn here…
This is such an important reminder. Islam teaches us mercy, patience, and humility, yet some of us act like judges instead of fellow humans trying our best. None of us are perfect, so who gave us the right to attack others while ignoring our own flaws?
Growing up, I loved wearing baseball caps, but my family would scold me, calling it "Ba Salat", claiming it was haram in Islam as it would stop me from praying properly or my prayers will not be answered. Years later, I went to the Middle East and saw Arabs wearing the same caps. During Salat, they simply turned them backward to pray. It made me realize: sometimes, what we insist is ‘wrong’ is just a matter of perspective.
Guidance should come from understanding, not harshness. The Prophet (PBUH) led with kindness, even to those who made mistakes. If we truly follow his example, we’d focus more on fixing ourselves before pointing fingers. Let’s drop the hypocrisy and choose compassion instead.
May we all learn to be better, kinder humans, embracing understanding over judgment.
Sigh…. The prophet PBUH was not perfect, he made mistakes and Allah corrected him. So who are we not to make mistakes.
The Prophet PBUH was asked about Imān (faith), and he said that it increases and decreases. He then advised us to strive as much as possible to make our Imān increase.
Many people who claim to practice Islam today don’t actually possess deep knowledge about the Deen and that’s not a good thing. Allah said, “Whoever does not know Me, how will he worship Me?” If you don’t understand something, how can you worship it correctly?
For example, many of us wear the hijab simply because we were told it’s good, and so we began to wear it.
But how many truly understand the concept behind it? I wear the niqāb, and I know it is a privilege. But for many, it’s not easy. Some have already lived a life where their beauty was regularly seen, where people would say “MashaAllah, you’re so beautiful.”
So imagine how difficult it becomes to suddenly conceal that beauty. Especially when others around you continue to praise and romanticize outward appearance.
This is what temptations look like.
There are temptations everywhere. People look at you with disdain. They say things like, “Oh, so now you’re using the niqāb? How will people know you’re beautiful? How will you see us?” As if by covering up, we become invisible to the world.
But no—those of us who wear the niqāb see more than people assume. And we face all kinds of criticism, judgment, and spiritual battles. We are human. Blood flows in our veins. We feel things. And when you succumb to temptation, the same people who pressured you will turn around and abuse you.
What do you want us to do?
I have friends who went from wearing the niqāb to just wearing a scarf. I always make du‘ā for them, because I believe they are still among the best of people. They are good. I know they are struggling. Even you—yes, you reading this—ask yourself: in the way you dress now, if your close friends are dressing in a revealing manner, won’t you feel tempted at some point to dress like them?
A lot of people just need to be more kind. You can’t practice a religion that preaches kindness and act in such a cruel manner to other Muslims just because you feel holier than thou. At the end of day, my opinion remains that everyone’s spiritual journey is personal and no human being should be the judge of whether or not you are journeying in the right manner
I cannot articulate my thought process very well, but I know we need to talk about the responsibility people put on others to represent a religion the way they want them to, while taking away that same responsibility they equally hold. Bashing them for doing something because you have held them to a pedestal no one asked you to 😭
I love this so much, Hauwa. It’s always the loudest preachings — love, kindness, compassion — that every religion claims to stand for. But somehow, those are the things we practice the least. It’s wild how the core messages get drowned out, yet they’re meant to be the foundation.
So many Muslim women have an attitude of “Feminists always want to paint Muslim women as oppressed and paint Islam as a bad oppressive religion”
They often then go on to defend Islam and hijab / niqab by claiming it’s empowering, nobody is forcing them etc.
The irony is that they seem to not realise, that if the consequence of you removing your hijab, niqab, etc is your community attacking you, whether verbally or physically, and threatening your life, whether in this world or the afterlife, then even if nobody physically forced you to wear the hijab / niqab, you’re actually still being forced by the silent unspoken threat of how you will be treated badly for not wearing it.
This judgement and hate just makes people who want to turn from evil to good, just keep in evil because the people who claim to be "religious or good" do religion with so must hate.
Funny thing is this people are not really angry at the act, they are angry at the audacity of the person to do something they always wanted to do, but do not have the courage to do ut
This judgement and hate just makes people who want to turn from evil to good, just keep in evil because the people who claim to be "religious or good" do religion with so must hate.
Funny thing is this people are not really angry at the act, they are angry at the audacity of the person to do something they always wanted to do, but do not have the courage to do ut
I read a book recently that said “If the Prophet Muhammad were among us today, many would reject him. He would be too compassionate for the extremists, too honest for the hypocrites, too revolutionary for the status quo.”
100% agree. Religion is not black & white, this or that. The Quran preaches kindness & compassion at almost every point but loads of Muslims are blind to it today.
They’re intolerant of their neighbors & extend unkindness to the other person.
So what if she takes of her hijab, if u have a concern, there are better ways to communicate it.
Also, the obsession of controlling what women wear is not about religion or cos they care, it’s about control
Is it a sin not to cover your head in Islam
Even now a days Christians barely cover their heads to church again. It doesn’t mean we are way better than them because we are wearing scarfs. If you feel like what she’s doing is wrong then talk to her politely. But we should always remember no one is perfect
Nailed it ✅
It’s not a sin. However, it is advised, just like how modesty is preached, to strengthen ur ummah.
What matters most though, is what u wear in ur heart & the kindness u extend towards others
Hi Zee. I saw this annd thought it’s best to say something. So it’s actually a sin not to cover your head as a woman in Islam. We have been explicitly ordered to do so, and it is a sigh of faith. However, just like everyone struggles with one aspect of the religion or another, some also struggle with the hijab. And that is fine, because Allah is merciful. What is not fine is trying to validate your decision to take it off by stating reasons that could mislead other people. You can admit you’re struggling and let’s move on from there instead of saying something like, “I feel free”, “I feel liberated”, “it is not compulsory anyway”
According to the consensus of the scholars of the four madhabs of Sunni Islam, covering the hair is a requirement for free women, as it constitutes part of their 'awrah. Failing to do so is falling short of Sacred Law.
Then we don’t have the right to judge anyone because no one knows who is who
Right. The only one who has the right to judge & cast any stone is Allah. But sadly, nowadays, we’ve lost the plot
True, people will surely talk because that’s their ways but we should also remember not to judge others so we won’t be judged
I just feel that the world has grown too judgmental today.
It’s why you see people so blinded by a sense of self righteous superiority that they pile on any and everyone they consider to be short of their manufactured standards.
Allow God to fight his own battles! As you wrote, face ya own demons first: they’re legion enough to keep you occupied for your short and fleeting sojourn here…
Well done Hauwa! I’ve missed these letters🥰
This is such an important reminder. Islam teaches us mercy, patience, and humility, yet some of us act like judges instead of fellow humans trying our best. None of us are perfect, so who gave us the right to attack others while ignoring our own flaws?
Growing up, I loved wearing baseball caps, but my family would scold me, calling it "Ba Salat", claiming it was haram in Islam as it would stop me from praying properly or my prayers will not be answered. Years later, I went to the Middle East and saw Arabs wearing the same caps. During Salat, they simply turned them backward to pray. It made me realize: sometimes, what we insist is ‘wrong’ is just a matter of perspective.
Guidance should come from understanding, not harshness. The Prophet (PBUH) led with kindness, even to those who made mistakes. If we truly follow his example, we’d focus more on fixing ourselves before pointing fingers. Let’s drop the hypocrisy and choose compassion instead.
May we all learn to be better, kinder humans, embracing understanding over judgment.
Sigh…. The prophet PBUH was not perfect, he made mistakes and Allah corrected him. So who are we not to make mistakes.
The Prophet PBUH was asked about Imān (faith), and he said that it increases and decreases. He then advised us to strive as much as possible to make our Imān increase.
Many people who claim to practice Islam today don’t actually possess deep knowledge about the Deen and that’s not a good thing. Allah said, “Whoever does not know Me, how will he worship Me?” If you don’t understand something, how can you worship it correctly?
For example, many of us wear the hijab simply because we were told it’s good, and so we began to wear it.
But how many truly understand the concept behind it? I wear the niqāb, and I know it is a privilege. But for many, it’s not easy. Some have already lived a life where their beauty was regularly seen, where people would say “MashaAllah, you’re so beautiful.”
So imagine how difficult it becomes to suddenly conceal that beauty. Especially when others around you continue to praise and romanticize outward appearance.
This is what temptations look like.
There are temptations everywhere. People look at you with disdain. They say things like, “Oh, so now you’re using the niqāb? How will people know you’re beautiful? How will you see us?” As if by covering up, we become invisible to the world.
But no—those of us who wear the niqāb see more than people assume. And we face all kinds of criticism, judgment, and spiritual battles. We are human. Blood flows in our veins. We feel things. And when you succumb to temptation, the same people who pressured you will turn around and abuse you.
What do you want us to do?
I have friends who went from wearing the niqāb to just wearing a scarf. I always make du‘ā for them, because I believe they are still among the best of people. They are good. I know they are struggling. Even you—yes, you reading this—ask yourself: in the way you dress now, if your close friends are dressing in a revealing manner, won’t you feel tempted at some point to dress like them?
This is just so disheartening
I love the way you write Hauwa.
So detailed, clear and captivating till the end 🤍
It is well with this generation of Muslims! Not enough Sabr and we're quick to condemn others.
A lot of people just need to be more kind. You can’t practice a religion that preaches kindness and act in such a cruel manner to other Muslims just because you feel holier than thou. At the end of day, my opinion remains that everyone’s spiritual journey is personal and no human being should be the judge of whether or not you are journeying in the right manner
I cannot articulate my thought process very well, but I know we need to talk about the responsibility people put on others to represent a religion the way they want them to, while taking away that same responsibility they equally hold. Bashing them for doing something because you have held them to a pedestal no one asked you to 😭
This is touching. Fr.
It just shows how religious they are. Covering up their own sins but openly firing someone else, as if you're better than them.
The Bible even says that you should remove the rhe beam in your eye first, before trying to remove the log in your neighbour's eye.
Thank you so much, Hauwa.🙏
Many people actually need to hear this. Honestly.
I love this so much, Hauwa. It’s always the loudest preachings — love, kindness, compassion — that every religion claims to stand for. But somehow, those are the things we practice the least. It’s wild how the core messages get drowned out, yet they’re meant to be the foundation.
So many Muslim women have an attitude of “Feminists always want to paint Muslim women as oppressed and paint Islam as a bad oppressive religion”
They often then go on to defend Islam and hijab / niqab by claiming it’s empowering, nobody is forcing them etc.
The irony is that they seem to not realise, that if the consequence of you removing your hijab, niqab, etc is your community attacking you, whether verbally or physically, and threatening your life, whether in this world or the afterlife, then even if nobody physically forced you to wear the hijab / niqab, you’re actually still being forced by the silent unspoken threat of how you will be treated badly for not wearing it.
Toh.
Thank you so much for this hauwa😍
Some of them do more than eating bumbum self 😂
"People just need to be kinder and stop acting like weirdos."
There are no truer words!
This judgement and hate just makes people who want to turn from evil to good, just keep in evil because the people who claim to be "religious or good" do religion with so must hate.
Funny thing is this people are not really angry at the act, they are angry at the audacity of the person to do something they always wanted to do, but do not have the courage to do ut
This judgement and hate just makes people who want to turn from evil to good, just keep in evil because the people who claim to be "religious or good" do religion with so must hate.
Funny thing is this people are not really angry at the act, they are angry at the audacity of the person to do something they always wanted to do, but do not have the courage to do ut