Wow hauwa your newsletters always brightens my day,I have always dealt with low self esteem because of my body size since secondary school coupled with bullying from my mates .Still trying to build up my self confidence as an adult because I now have social anxiety plus the fear of what people might say.thank you so much 💜♥️
I grew up the only dark child amongst my siblings, so I was kinda ostracised growing up even though I was looked like my dad's other half. It crazily affected my self esteem because I thought it made my mum love me less but thank God for the gift of a thoughtful mother and crazy cousins,they really rescued me from me✨️💙. Thank you for this beautiful piece Hauwa✨️
Same here. My mother, who is also the only dark one in her own family, went through the same. So she and my oldest sister were the only ones who called me beautiful in the family. The others were giving me backhanded shit and were always telling me that I’d get a beautiful man to compensate for my looks (the audacity).
They were right though, I did get a beautiful man who calls me gorgeous everyday and genuinely believes so.
This is a really great and unique attitude for girls to have, good on you. I see women call each other beautiful to make each other feel better and be positive, but what they don’t realise is that in doing this they’ve tied their esteem to their looks, and playing to the stupid idea that this is all that they are valued for. Divorcing esteem and appearance is the way to happiness.
I think we all needed to hear this. I think all my clients to hear this. So what? For me, this mentality transcends how we view our bodies into even areas of life chasing our dreams or making that change.
So what if we fail, so what if they don't like us, we can and will become better through adversities. Besides, we may do better than the lies or fear tell us.
Hauwa, this is a powerful message! I love how Rali challenged your perspective on beauty standards. It's so true that we often get caught up in what we think we should look like instead of appreciating ourselves for who we are. The "So what?" approach is a great way to reframe insecurities. Thanks for sharing!
‘And so what’ this is what i will be saying from now on.
I wish I saw this like eight years ago
Me too
Wow hauwa your newsletters always brightens my day,I have always dealt with low self esteem because of my body size since secondary school coupled with bullying from my mates .Still trying to build up my self confidence as an adult because I now have social anxiety plus the fear of what people might say.thank you so much 💜♥️
I grew up the only dark child amongst my siblings, so I was kinda ostracised growing up even though I was looked like my dad's other half. It crazily affected my self esteem because I thought it made my mum love me less but thank God for the gift of a thoughtful mother and crazy cousins,they really rescued me from me✨️💙. Thank you for this beautiful piece Hauwa✨️
Same here. My mother, who is also the only dark one in her own family, went through the same. So she and my oldest sister were the only ones who called me beautiful in the family. The others were giving me backhanded shit and were always telling me that I’d get a beautiful man to compensate for my looks (the audacity).
They were right though, I did get a beautiful man who calls me gorgeous everyday and genuinely believes so.
hi
I LOVE this piece! 👏
There’s sooo much more to us than our looks. And we’re all uniquely beautiful 💗
Indeed❤️❤️
This is a really great and unique attitude for girls to have, good on you. I see women call each other beautiful to make each other feel better and be positive, but what they don’t realise is that in doing this they’ve tied their esteem to their looks, and playing to the stupid idea that this is all that they are valued for. Divorcing esteem and appearance is the way to happiness.
Hauwa shared sense today!!! Too much sense!!! Thank you!!!
Good you got to the "So What". Those who mindlessly point out things about others, are not worth anyone's time.
Yes oh... And so bloody what?!
This is such a thoughtful and beautiful piece, for someone trying to heal and love their body.
I'll start saying "and so what" from now own.
I think we all needed to hear this. I think all my clients to hear this. So what? For me, this mentality transcends how we view our bodies into even areas of life chasing our dreams or making that change.
So what if we fail, so what if they don't like us, we can and will become better through adversities. Besides, we may do better than the lies or fear tell us.
Hauwa, this is a powerful message! I love how Rali challenged your perspective on beauty standards. It's so true that we often get caught up in what we think we should look like instead of appreciating ourselves for who we are. The "So what?" approach is a great way to reframe insecurities. Thanks for sharing!
"And so what?"
Be like i go put am for sticker, gum am for chest.
Love you Hauwa
Thank you for this🥺.
@Clarayeo
okay bud i see how it is.
Wear self-confidence like a shield–no!. Like a soft, warm blanket