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I love you, Hauwa. No one's going to believe when we tell them that you wrote this. But you're magic, so much undiscovered, and I absolutely loved that you shared this with us. Can I relate your writing voice to the hoodlum in your videos? Nope. Absolutely not. But I love that this also, is you. You're beautiful.

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I love love your newsletters, Hauwa🤍

They're always soothing to read.

I still can't relate this to the chaos in your videos😂

Love both sides really 🤍

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Hauwa, I'm currently in the middle of a heartbreak, and i sometimes can't get a hold of myself, even after more than six months. When i got to the point where you said your first heartbreak lasted for about two years, i just knew i wasn't crazy. Honestly, sometimes, it feels really fresh. I tend to be emotionally unstable a lot. Emotional rollercoaster here and there, but one thing i'm sure of is that there's progress, even if it seems really slow. As humans, our journeys are different. It could be fast for one and slow for the other. I'm better today than i was yesterday, and believe me, i understand things better now. How i know i'm getting better is that i have the understanding of the fact that i can't go back to him regardless of how i feel. Unlike before, i'd have picked my phone on impulse and call him. Definitely, it keeps getting better. One day, i'll look back and smile at how far i've come and how strong and better i've become. Till then, love and light.

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They said time heals,I'm yet to believe that phrase. it's been two months now and I'm still struggling with this heartbreak, the person in question is even making it difficult for me that I question my God everyday what have done wrong to deserve this kind of human being in my life, but i still believe I'm going to smile again afterall I have no fault I'm just human and life happens.

Hauwa thank you for always sharing your stories with us 🫂

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See ehn.. from one person that heartbreak has shown shege(me) to another, you will heal. It might take time but you will definitely heal. Hang in there and keep your head up❤❤

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Thank you 🫂

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The time for individuals is different. Even after two months, you're not all better but you will definitely get better regardless of how long it takes.

Keep a distance from the person,

Take care of yourself and put yourself first.

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Thank you 🫂

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i love your newsletters a little too much. 🥹

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Me too

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This letter just randomly reminds me of my last heartbreak in 2022. Hauwa and other gentle readers, I thought I was going mad. Like I genuinely thought I was going crazy. It was too much for me to bear. I didn't know that it was humanly possible to cry that much. It was horrible. Whenever I see him, (cos he's work place was close to mine and the new gf us a content creator so Instagram algorithm) it would feel like the devil himself is ripping my heart out of my chest.

But guess what; I saw him at an event sometimes this year and I didn't feel a thing. I've not dated anyone since then, but now, I'm happy. I've healed. The thought of him doesnt hurt anymore. In fact, I was him with the babe he left me for at the event and it didn't affect me one bit.

So it might take time, but broken hearts do heal❤

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They say breakups affect the brain in the same way drug withdrawals do. 🙏 Your usage of the word 'relapse' is entirely accurate.

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Hauwa, you're so good!

I think that most times things happen so that we can help others. When we begin to see our challenges as opportunities to help others, we'll go through them differently

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Thank you hauwa💕I needed this right now...like u said time will heal us

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Subscribing to your newsletter is one of the best decisions I mead Hauwa, I’m currently trying to pull away a heal from this crazy heartbreak, I honestly can’t put my pains in words and those around won’t even understand, I know I’ll heal eventually but for now Hauwa this feeling is crazy😖

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Thanks so much for this newsletter and every other one, Hauwa. This came right at a good time, I've been dealing with an heartbreak for a couple of weeks now.

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I may not know much but I know that I love you very much. I’m sorry that you and your cousin are currently nursing heartbreaks but your write up is so soothing and I’m glad he has you. I’m glad you also have someone to listen to you. God bless you darling. I’m rooting for you ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

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Thiss!

I think many people needed to hear this

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Thank youuuu sm for this newsletter, Hauwa. 🤍🫂

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Couldn't have stumbled on this at a better time. Thank you Hauwa. As someone experiencing her 3rd heartbreak, it’s been hard and almost discouraging. I've felt so discouraged to anticipate any good for myself, but one thing I try to remind myself is: it does get better. And like you wrote, I will be fine and whole again. ❤️

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Generally, tragedy brings people together more than good times

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Uhmmm… I took a pause on this and had to read a couple of times, and it’s scary to think it’s close to being true, if not completely.

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