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I rushed here this moment I saw title of this mail.

I live alone. Honestly it could be the most frustrating thing and the best thing ever.

I enjoy being by myself but sometimes it’s just to much. Nothing beats having someone to talk to physically but nothing beats living alone either.

How I do it? I just live. I’m currently in my boyfriends house, when I’m tired I’ll be back to my place. Anytime I get back to my place I’m always so happy that I have it all to myself.

One of the worst things is being broke and alone😂 like Goddddddd!!!!!!!!!! You won’t know if you’re sad because you’re alone or sad because you’re broke or both. There’s the feeling that had it been you had company, at least it would have been easier to cope with the “brokeness”

God help us. I no even get television to help my life😂 at least it’s enough distraction till I get tired of it or no more subscription money. Then it’s “eh God” “God abeg” “God when” 😂😂😂😂😂

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Mar 5, 2023Liked by Hauwa

Start with building a pattern. Set rules that align with your daily, weekly and monthly needs (needs be very very different from goals óò). Tip, align with your daily prayers for starters.

Next, set your smart watch (I'm guessing it's your apple watch - big geh) for 3 reminders - each one for your daily meals. Solid tip, once you carry your plates to the kitchen, don't leave until you do the dishes.

This one may be hard but, sleep on time. This leaves your mind quiet/unconscious during those lonely evenings - so no more kindly thoughts. Plus you wake up feeling refreshed.

Add a workout routine - space it out. I suggest 1 morning, every other morning (i.e., if you workout on Sunday, then you don't on Monday; on and off, you get?). On the third morning (this workout day), do your routine outside (jogging works). This introduces you to new and random elements.

Notice that all these suggestions don't take you too far from home (don't worry, I know your kind - home body them them) so they should be relatively easy to adopt.

These suggestions may seem counter Intuitive; she say she dey lonely, this one dey give her routine. Lol yes! With my full chest. Just try it...

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Mar 5, 2023Liked by Hauwa

I used to live alone in school. I enjoy my solitude so much that I have created different characters of me to talk to me. Good thing my area was busy , I console myself by sitting at the balcony and watch all dramas that ensues. Asides that it actually tiring and can run you mental. It does have it perks too but not much. Most times I get glued on Instagram . I don’t have any advice, invite your friends once in a while.

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Does anyone else feel a rollercoster of emotions, I literally always bury myself in work, i love my space but i also get depressed when am alone sometimes, one minute am happy, the next am crying into my pillow.

The biggest perks ti living alone is it being your safe zone, you meet everything exactly how you left it

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Mar 5, 2023Liked by Hauwa

Welp. Try to focus on, and enjoy the perks. Dance in your underwear round the house, keep your mind and body active; pray; and when you're not up for all that, chill in bed, eat, watch a movie.

If you need social contact, (video)call people whose company you enjoy.

All in all, take it one day at a time, and you'll survive.

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I stay alone and I absolutely love it but I must confess that it might get lonely and boring sometimes especially when you're broke.

So pointers

1. Invite friends over but they must leave early and not tread on your peace

2. Make your place your comfort zone

3. Try to enjoy cooking and eat infront of the tv or whilst watching something on your phone

4. Outsource if you're tired

5. When the feeling of loneliness comes, please leave the house like take a walk or something. Just leave the house

6. Hauwa please get a freaking boyfriend!!!!!!

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I am here for the advice

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I face this in school and its scary like mad .

But I God dey abeg

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It's how you made a post so touching funny😂

I can relate. Omo. I don't even know the answer to profer because it's almost the same for me.

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As I’m writing this, I’m moving into my own apartment. I’m scared and happy at the same time. I’ll be looking for pointers too here

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Ah! You guyyyss🥺🥺... I’m to move in to start living alone later this week and it already feels very scary, not like I did not imagine a “rollercoaster living alone experience” but at this point ehn 😩 it’s more realistic... I keep consoling myself that I like being by myself so it’d work just fine but I kinda feel like I’ll need more than that at this point. I’m not sleeping on all these tips in the comments(at least I’ll have all my plantain to myself true true) 💪🏽😒

Thank you for always Huawa.

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I can relate to this so much🥹. I'm 17 and I live alone because I'm overseas and while I like it sometimes, it gets really tiring. I guess it's easier for me though because I go to school and I have friends from school whose houses I can sleep over at, but it's really difficult staying alone at this age. At this rate, I'm getting married soon😂!

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To be honest, it’s not easy. I used to stay in a small city, before deciding to move to a bigger one because of more opportunities. I loved it because my friends stay like 40mins-1hr from me. This days life and the big cities challenges had been dealing with me back to back. I just want to be home and not talk to anyone. It’s really a mixed feelings, I just watch movies and if I’m not in the mood for that, Instagram is my bestie. Emi that like to party, now to go outside self no Dey do me. I sha know say e no go be like this forever, and I get ice-cream for freezer. Another way I waste time is cooking too, nah when I Dey get ginger pass to cook. You just have to channel it something better, and keep a positive reminder to yourself saying it’s not a permanent place.

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I'm reading this and thinking if I've ever lived alone.

I did for a brief period but that was in 2008. It wasn't up to a year and I was there only weekdays. It didn't feel like I was alone cos my cousin was in the room next door. The masters wey I start sef, I no finish. Marriage carried me away.

I can only say embrace both the happy times and the lonely times. Can't say I relate much. I've never truly lived alone.

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Living alone is bliss though it can drive one crazy🥺

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Just hilarious! Hauwa, so you’re of Ikorodu because of a little mishap that happened at Agric? No naw, it shouldn’t be so. I personally do not like the idea of living alone. I like having someone around always. But, with time, I guess you’d adapt.

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